Monday, October 20, 2014

#5 The biggest misconception about singles

5)      The biggest misconception you think people have about single life.

There are so many misconceptions about single life! I hardly know where to start! 
I feel as if the biggest misconception about single life is that "we" have all the time in the world for...Well...Whatever! Married and coupled people seem to think that single people are not busy. "Girl, if you don't have a boyfriend or husband to take care of, what are you doing?" The answer is everything. If I'm single, I really need to be on my roll before someone comes along to change my focus! I've never been as productive as when I've been single! 
Along with the things church related, I'm busy with my sisters' schooling, piano lessons (though I'll clearly never be truly amazing at it), exercising with my mom, planning home improvement (also with mom), and the business I'm trying to get off the ground...All that not including the fun stuff!
So, I've told you what the misconception is, now let me sum up what single life really is. It is a time (some choose it to be a lifetime) to go after your goals and dreams, to enjoy the small things, make close bonds, and yes, sometimes even learn about heartache. If you're planning on being married one day, it's the time to prepare for married life. Most of the time, we are happy to help out or babysit children--of course I'm only speaking for myself-but it's difficult not to be resentful when you act as if it's the only thing we have to do in life. 

So, single people, weigh in here! What do you think is the biggest misconception people have about single life? 

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

#4. The scariest thing about being single

So we are moving right along! Click the picture for the info on this challenge!

4)      Your biggest fear as a single person.
The main part of this challenge is to be real with the answers...Which means I have to dig deep. This isn't something that I really think about. No one wants to focus on their fears, where's the fun in that? 
At first I thought my biggest fear was never getting married and having kids, but I think my real fear is that I won't be happy with wherever my life leads. I know a few people who never got married and are really content; I know more people who (especially right around my age) started becoming desperate to get married or at least be in a relationship. We generally live the first fifteen years of our lives single, so why the fear that we'll never have something we were born without? 

To clarify, I believe that dreaming of the fairy tale "happily ever after" is a good thing, and even a God-given desire-as long as it doesn't become the only desire. I definitely have that desire, and would love to have all the fun I have now doubled by having someone to share it with; however, I don't want my main goal to be something I have no control over. I refuse to get married just in case I won't find happiness alone. I sometimes feel like I'm a strange specimen for being happy the majority of the time without a man. I have so many things to keep me busy, inspired, and content. I don't want that to wear off. I fear it wearing off! The good news is that talking about your fears is the first step to overcoming them...Here's hoping!

Join me on the 30 day blogging challenge, or comment with your answer to any (or all) of the questions! 

Monday, October 13, 2014

#3. A moment or a day when being single was really awesome.

And we continue on...
The Single Woman's 30 day blogging challenge.

3)      Describe a moment or a day when being single was really awesome.
Ah, so here we are at a good memory. My sister told me my last post made her sad lol. She doesn't ordinarily read my blog, but she was told (by me) that she was in it and wanted to make sure that she was put in a good light.
Now for the answer: As a person, single or married, I hope that there are always plenty of good days and moments, that's why it's difficult to pick only one. I think it would be easier to pick a time when it would have been good to be single and I wasn't lol. I'm going to go with the trip to NC in 2010. I don't remember what led up to it, or even any planning, but one day my friend Taylor and I decided to head up to the North Carolina a few hours away. We agreed that we would stop at any little shop or stop that interested us, and that's what we did. We had sandwiches at cute cafes and yummy coffee drinks from a java shop off a little mountain road...and the antique shops and boutiques we stopped at-Mm! We visited Taylor's sweet aunt, and ironically, when we got to her house after dinner the heavens opened up and poured out rain. The forecast was pretty formidable, so what we had planned as a day trip, turned into an overnight trip. I slept on the couch and it felt adventurous like sleepovers do when you're a child. The ride back was as fun as the ride there with lots of "deep conversation" and coffee. 
What's is your favorite single moment memory?
I was quite the chubs lol
As always, click the link (at the top) and check out the challenge. You may want to join! 

Saturday, October 11, 2014

#2. A moment when being single sucked.

As you know I'm doing the 30 day blogger challenge (please click the link if you want to check it out.) I'm gonna get right to this painful one lol.

2)      Describe a moment or a day when being single really sucked.
Immediately after reading this question, I knew the moment/day. All three of my (biological) sisters are married, and two live out of town. For my mom's birthday, they decided to visit so we could have a big "to-do". One day, all my sisters and their husbands were here at the house. We were all talking and laughing loudly, and I looked around; there were four happy couples! My parents and my sisters and brothers-in-law were all blessed with wonderful happy relationships. I suddenly felt adrift and in limbo. It was the worst feeling, because I rarely feel as if there is a hole in my life. Of course I have those single girl moments (usually I'm watching a fine movie star on a favorite show) where I say "It would be cool to have a man" or I'll jokingly say to a friend, "Okay, I need a man." but there is never a true sense of urgency. For once, I realized that my sisters could all relate to each other on a different level while I was/am at a different place.
That moment sucked because I wanted to have what my sisters had and I realized that it was one thing I couldn't just have when I wanted it. I know I could be married right now, or be in a relationship with some guy...But having a good relationship or a good marriage isn't so easily acquired. Although, at that "sucky moment" I was surrounded by happy couples, I've seen unhappy or even just bored couples and I'm not at all willing to give up even the suckiest moments of single life for that. So here I am, willing to take those less-than-stellar moments with the shining glorious moments of singleness, and prepare myself for one day enjoying married life, or forever enjoying single life. 

Tell me, what was your suckiest moment of being single?

Friday, October 10, 2014

#1 Why are you still single?

I've decided to do this 30 day challenge for singles that I saw on Mandy's (the single woman) blog. Some of the questions are difficult...And personal, but maybe that's what I need. After all, no one reads my posts anyway lol.
If you'd like to join in, click the link above and check out the "rules". Embarrassing things like this are meant to be shared! I think that sometimes it's good to get out of your comfort zone, and answering questions and putting those answers into words is a good way to find out more about yourself.
Let's get started!

1)      Your response to everyone’s favorite question: “And why are YOU still single?”
Because the one hasn't come along yet! Okay, so cliche. I've not been in a whole ton of relationships...Mainly because you can't call it that if the guy you're in it with doesn't acknowledge you publicly as his girlfriend or seems embarrassed to. To me, being with someone doesn't make you not single. I've been my loneliest when I've been in a relationship. 
Get to the point Lizzi...
I'm single because I won't be okay with okay. I almost was several times, but it is lame to accept something that I don't even want to be. Shouldn't I expect the same of others that I want to be myself? I want to be standout, extraordinary; therefore, I want standout and extraordinary. 

So there it is. Not the most eloquent answer to that simple question, but that's what I came up with. 
Next question?

Friday, October 3, 2014

Flea market ice cream?

You already know that when it comes to yard sales and (especially) flea markets, I'm all up in it! A full year after I found this ice cream/frozen yogurt maker at a flea market (in it's very ancient looking box with instructions), we finally made some ice cream! Quick plug for the Children's home sale where I bought this. Please check out the site, and they have another sale coming up soon! Do it for the kids!

We get very ripe fruit at a discounted rate at an open farmer's market, so my mom pulled out some mango she'd frozen and voila! Mango ice cream! I was a little fascinated by the process as you can see...

And let's conclude these examples of my less than great photography skills, by showing the finished product:


Monday, September 22, 2014

Ahoy Mateys! Care for a donut?

Ahoy mateys! According to me sources, September 19th is International talk like a pirate day! Me thinks it high time ye old landlubbers spoke the language of the sea farin' scoundrels!

Okay, so I'm not entirely sure I'm good at this pirate talkin, but I do know that we had a good ol' time interpreting "pirate-wear" from what we had at the house! Above are two younger sisters, and a homeschooling friend of theirs. Krispy Kreme had a promotion on this special day that required you to speak like a pirate for one free donut, or to dress like one for a free dozen.

This young one looked more like a gypsy from the old story books every time I saw her. She found an old scarf for her head, kept on her school uniform white shirt, added a necklace, a knitted shawl around her waist over a tiered skirt, and black boots "completed" her look. 

This one looked like a crewma--woman for sure! A real rip-roaring time was sure to be had on any ship she sailed with. She stole my one hoop earring idea, but seeing as how she had a knife, I didn't dare dispute the originality of that idea. She wore a white button down, black vest, black boots, gold bracelet, and baggy breeches fit for the jobs she said she did: scrubbing the deck.

I don't even know how to explain...To me she looks like a friendly thug cowgirl with a knife, but I know she tried. She wore a large white button-down shirt, a bandanna around her head, a few belts, a bracelet, and some boots. Fear not, she wouldn't hurt a fly and doesn't guard the ships treasures. 

A pink polka dot square of fabric served as my scarf, a piece of felt stitched into a cone shape for my eye patch, my dads shirt, several necklaces and rings of mine, a leather belt, a vest I had already, an earring hooked into my hair, and one "gold" earring. On my feet were brown sandals worn with my dad's socks that had holes in them. I was going for a "cute underneath the grime" type of pirate. I used black eye shadow dusted on my face for grime lol. I will be honest and say I LOVED doing this. I was so in character that it felt awkward that the cashiers didn't immediately speak "pirate" to me!

No one was hurt in the writing of this blog, knives nor weapons of any kind were allowed in Krispy Kreme and were only in use for pictures and lunch.